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[locked away from nosy fan-types]

Advance warning, there's a fair amount of TMI behind this cut. Hopefully Laine heeded my warning ...

How old were you when you discovered the joys of masturbation?

Are we talking the first time I recall touching myself or the first time I, shall we say, got it right? If the latter, I was nine.

How old were you when you first did anything sexual with another person?

Depends on how you define 'sexual', but I would say ... thirteen

How many sexual partners have you had?

Fewer than you might think, given people's stereotypical image of rock musicians. I haven't actually counted though.

Have you ever had unprotected sex? Why?

Yes I have, with a few partners I've trusted.

What term to you prefer to use when saying you had sex? (Got laid, fucked, made love, etc.) Is there a difference in your mind between such terms?

I use made love if that's the depth of feeling shared between me and the other person. Went to bed with and had sex with are my two other preferred phrases. Got laid, fucked and other earthier terms I use infrequently.

Have you ever used common household objects for sexual purposes?

Heh. Let's bear in mind that what's common in one household may not be common in another ... but yes.

Do you own sex toys?

I do.

She-male porn! Yes or no?

I've seen some. It doesn't do anything in particular for me, but I've no objection to others enjoying it.

Your current partner has had way more sexual partners than you. How do you react?

With equanimity. It's not a competition after all. And of course Peter brought up the excellent point of making sure no one's posing any health risks to anyone else.

You have had way more sexual partners than your current partner. How do you react?

I'd be open, honest and reassuring. If needed and wanted, I'm more than willing to be the teacher.

Would you have sex with a person who you hated if you were extremely physically attracted to them?

Absolutely not.

Would you have sex with someone you cared deeply for, but had no physical attraction to?

I have. Not recently though.

Would you dump someone for refusing to give you head?

It seems silly to me to treat oral sex as the absolute be-all and end-all when there are so many other equally enjoyable possibilities. In a word, no.

Do YOU ever refuse to give head?

I have. Not very often, though. I'll confess I like the control.

Spit or swallow?

I've done both.

What have you had up your butt for sexual reasons?

Cocks, fingers, tongues, strap-ons, vibrators, plugs ... aaaaand an occasional common (and carefully cleaned and lubed) household object.

Would you ever consider fisting?

Receiving, I'm not particularly interested. Giving I have done, though not often.

Have you ever sneezed during a sex act?

Hmm. I did once discover a sensitivity to a certain perfume during foreplay. Does that count?

Farted?

No, although certain acts have caused similar noises.

Do you prefer to face your partner during intercourse, or away?

I do like to see my partner's face, either first hand or reflected. That's not a hard-and-fast rule though.

Do you have a favourite position? If so, what?

That usually depends on what works best with my partner. And with certain partners, virtually every position is wonderful.

Where indoors do you prefer to have sex? (Bed, floor, shower, etc.)

Yes.

Do you enjoy having sex outdoors?

Most definitely. As others have noted though, it's best to have something between your tender bits and nature's grittier parts, be it a blanket or whatever.

Have you used sex toys (vibrators, dildos, etc) with a partner? If not, how do you feel about doing so?

Oh yes.

Would you ever take erotic photos of yourself or make sex tapes?

Sex tapes, no. As for photos, I've never taken them of myself, but I have been photographed in the nude before.

Do you enjoy being watched while having intercourse/masturbating?

That is ... very situational. Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Would you enjoy watching your partner Masturbate? Have sex with someone else?

Masturbate, definitely. As for sex, it would depend on the kind of relationship we were in.

How important is your sexual identity (gay, bi, straight) to your sense of self?

Quite important. I've been in fistfights and family arguments over it. I've lost lovers over it.

If you woke up in bed, naked, with a member of the sex you don't normally fuck, how would you react?

Ah ... doesn't exactly apply to me. Greedy bi boy, remember? ;)

If your partner admitted, while extremely drunk, to a fetish you find distasteful, what would you do?

Ignore it. If he or she brought it up while sober, I'd hope we could have an adult discussion of the matter.

Have you ever dressed in costume as part of sex?

Um. Yes.

Have you ever tried any form of bondage?

I have tried several forms of bondage.

Do you enjoy pain during sex? Yours or your partner's?

Sometimes yes, but generally nothing more severe than a skin-reddening spanking. Giving or receiving.

If you partner told you he/she desired a threesome, how would you react?

Again that would depend on the kind of relationship we were in, and also on which person (if known) my partner wanted to be the third. I wouldn't get angry or dismiss the matter out of hand, regardless.

Would you ever try swinging?

Swinging in the context of marriage, probably not. Swinging in more open relationships, I have done.

What is the maximum number of people you would sleep with at one time?

Right, this one needs some clarification. Are we talking about the maximum number of people I myself would be directly engaged in pleasuring and being pleasured by at a given time? Because for me that tops out at three, for all intents and purposes. If you're talking about the maximum number of people in the room and generally participating, that's a different matter.

Have you ever toyed with the idea of double penetration?

I have done more than toy with it.

If one partner cuts off all sexual contact, is it acceptable for the deprived partner to cheat?

If the relationship is committed enough that it would in fact be considered cheating ... no. The deprived partner can bring up their needs for discussion, but ultimately it comes down to stay, go or both partners decide to change the rules.

What's a sexual deal-breaker for you? The one thing you will NOT do for anybody?

I can only have one? Put most simply, anything involving former food, former people, animals, children, and anything non-consensual are no-go areas for me.

Say you have a kid. What sort of attitude towards sex would you want them to grow up to have?

An attitude free of ignorance, fear and disgust. And I would want any child of mine to know that he or she can ask me questions without fear of being judged in any way.

Done and done. Any questions?

[locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-18 07:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sand-andwater.livejournal.com
I...I probably shouldn't even be reading or commenting to any of this but, really. Who in the world passes such a thing around and has people fill it out? Do casual acquaintances really need to know these things? Does SASCHA really need to know these things? Thank God you left names out of this.

That said, I feel entirely in the wrong not giving you the same run down as I've just read--even if I'm not sure how much I have to say is really that much of a mystery to you. We have discussed and/or done much of the above, after all.

How old were you when you discovered the joys of masturbation?

I was not as entrepreneurial as you. College. Edward.

How old were you when you first did anything sexual with another person?

Eighteen and that first time is something I'd rather forget but can't because lo and behold, it was the first time.

How many sexual partners have you had?

Four, if we are going to include the one-time and wish I could forget on account of it being so underwhelming first time.

Have you ever had unprotected sex? Why?

Obviously, you know the answer to this.

What term to you prefer to use when saying you had sex? (Got laid, fucked, made love, etc.) Is there a difference in your mind between such terms?

I've used quite a few different terms including made love and fucked. For what it's worth, I always enjoyed both with you.

Have you ever used common household objects for sexual purposes?

Are we going to count such things as ice cubes and the like? Regardless, yes. Which, again, you know.

Do you own sex toys?

Yes. Quite. Again, you know this.

She-male porn! Yes or no?

No.

And really? You've watched that...on purpose? Not that I care it's just that well, I can't find most porn anything but completely hilarious...when did you watch that? And with anyone? Really? Actual hermaphroditic pornography?

Would I have laughed at it?

Your current partner has had way more sexual partners than you. How do you react?

Considering who my partners have been, this has always been the case. I'm not particularly bothered by that. Consequence of being attracted to older men.

You have had way more sexual partners than your current partner. How do you react?

Rather irrelevant. Unlikely in the extreme and I don't have a current partner so, really...other than saying I suppose I'd be honest about it, I don't know what else to say.

Would you have sex with a person who you hated if you were extremely physically attracted to them?

No, never. And I'm not sure how you could find someone you hated physically attractive in the first place.

Would you have sex with someone you cared deeply for, but had no physical attraction to?

I never have, but I suppose it's a possibility. Not that I've ever cared to have sex outside of a committed relationship and I can't imagine being in a relationship like that without being attracted to the person.


Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-18 07:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sand-andwater.livejournal.com
Would you dump someone for refusing to give you head?

I'm just going to substitute oral sex for head here and say no. Of course not, that's absurd. Of course I'd be curious to know why they don't enjoy the act or if they've ever even tried it before nay saying it.

Do YOU ever refuse to give head?

Certainly. It has always had less to do with the act itself and my feelings at the time. I won't engage in something I don't particularly feel interested in at the moment. I'd also resent feeling forced into such a thing.

Spit or swallow?

Swallow...unless a certain musician who shall remain nameless has made me laugh and I don't want to choke--I still cannot believe you some times, Ro.

What have you had up your butt for sexual reasons?

Is there something wrong with the term anal penetration? Considering you are the only one I've ever engaged in said activity with, you know full well the extent of my experience here.

Would you ever consider fisting?

I think I've considered quite a few things, actually. Would I do this? If my partner wanted to and I were comfortable enough with them and knew that they knew what they were doing, I see no harm in at least attempting it.

Have you ever sneezed during a sex act?

Yes, but I did turn my head and sneeze against the pillow.

Farted?

No, but as you have said, there are some things that do create undesirable sounds.

Do you prefer to face your partner during intercourse, or away?

It entirely depends on what we're doing. It's not always practical depending on the position or location. If making love, yes, I want to be able to see their face.

Do you have a favourite position? If so, what?

Can I ask if I was one of those partners? You don't have to answer that, of course, but for me...you were always wonderful.

Where indoors do you prefer to have sex? (Bed, floor, shower, etc.)

I laughed at your answer to this, in case you wanted to know.

Do you enjoy having sex outdoors?

It depends on where out of doors. I really do not care for the beach. Blanket or not, sand gets everywhere. There are places I never want sand again. I do get perverse pleasure from knowing that I can turn the irritating grit into molten glass though. Punishment for making my more sensitive parts sore.

Have you used sex toys (vibrators, dildos, etc) with a partner? If not, how do you feel about doing so?

You know the answer to this.

Would you ever take erotic photos of yourself or make sex tapes?

Have you really been photographed nude? When and where, if I may ask? Candid or posed? I'm only curious since Marcello is constantly after me to...oh never mind.

No, I have not and would not commit anything to video.

Do you enjoy being watched while having intercourse/masturbating?

Only by my partner.

Would you enjoy watching your partner Masturbate? Have sex with someone else?

I do not share. I won't. And I suppose that answers that.

How important is your sexual identity (gay, bi, straight) to your sense of self?

I'm truly sorry that you've had to deal with so much adversity for simply being who you are, Ro. Every time I've heard you talk about this subject, it breaks my heart.

As for myself, I suppose it isn't so much important as I tend to not dwell on it over much unless I am in a relationship.

If you woke up in bed, naked, with a member of the sex you don't normally fuck, how would you react?

I'm sure I'd be rather confused if I didn't remember how I got to be there.

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-18 07:18 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sand-andwater.livejournal.com


If your partner admitted, while extremely drunk, to a fetish you find distasteful, what would you do?

I'd ignore it, anything else would be quite rude.

Have you ever dressed in costume as part of sex?

Yes. It's fun.

Have you ever tried any form of bondage?

Yes. And I did enjoy it at one time. I am really not comfortable with it any longer and I know you understand why.

Do you enjoy pain during sex? Yours or your partner's?

This is another one of those questions where my personal comfort zone has shifted drastically and it has nothing to do with sex or being a prude, but I find it rather difficult to discuss. Suffice it to say that no, I don't find it enjoyable any longer.

If you partner told you he/she desired a threesome, how would you react?

I'd want to know why and with whom. And I can't imagine I'd ever agree to it, but someone wanting something or expressing an interest in such a thing wouldn't bother me in and of itself.

I don't know if it makes me selfish or insecure but I can't bring myself to open a relationship that way. I need to be the only one in their bed.


Would you ever try swinging?

No.

What is the maximum number of people you would sleep with at one time?

Did you just admit to participating in at least one orgy? Oh, Ro...

As for me, as it is probably blatantly obvious by now: one.

Have you ever toyed with the idea of double penetration?

I have done more than toy with it.--I'm borrowing and keeping your answer.

If one partner cuts off all sexual contact, is it acceptable for the deprived partner to cheat?

Absolutely not. Not that I think depriving your partner of such things in most cases is the most reasonable thing to do in a given situation. It reeks of immaturity to me.

What's a sexual deal-breaker for you? The one thing you will NOT do for anybody?

There are quite a few things I simply won't do, you touched on most of them.

Say you have a kid. What sort of attitude towards sex would you want them to grow up to have?

Hopefully one akin to my own.

And since I've asked you questions, you know you can do the same if you are so inclined.

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-19 02:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
I have no problems with you commenting, Pippa. As you said, we've already discussed or done much of this. And Sascha apparently thinks she needs to know ...

Now for your questions, in order, I think:

More like I watched an assortment of porn with someone who was looking to satisfy their curiosity ... what, five years ago I think it was. Most of what gets called "she-male porn" actually involves male-to-female transsexuals who have had the hormone treatments to achieve breasts and other female characteristics, but not the genital reassignment surgery.

The writing and acting certainly don't improve from mainstream porn, so yes, you probably would laugh. We certainly did.

Yes, you were.

And I do enjoy making you laugh.

Yes, I really have. Ten, eleven years ago now, when I was staying in Washington with a lover who's also a photographer. He took both candid and posed photos, indoors and out. Got quite chilly at times.

Yes, I did just admit to that.

I am sorry your first time was so ... well. Too many men have so little understanding about how female pleasure works and less interest in learning.

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-19 02:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sand-andwater.livejournal.com
Well, I certainly hope Sascha doesn't think she needs to know anything about my sexual experiences because she will certainly find out what it feels like to want.

I...see. Well, that's interesting, I suppose but no, I think I can safely pass on that. Unless I need a disparately good laugh.

I'm glad, and thank you. I mean that.

I know you did--do, Ro.

I don't think you've ever mentioned living in Washington to me before. Is it as lovely and rainy as I imagine it would be in the Northwest? And yes, being cold is the only downside to posing for Marcello. At least he has the decency to ply me with wine for the most part so I don't notice I might be showing signs of hypothermia.

I'm sorry, I just find that funny. Not that you'd know I'm sitting here laughing, but I am. It also doesn't surprise me in the least. I--oh, I should really just keep the rest of my thoughts or question on the subject to myself, but you are really something else, Rory Stone.

Lesson learned, Ro. You needn't be sorry. It is quite possibly why I have always gravitated towards men older than my self, considerably older, since they at least have some idea of what they enjoy. Without veering into territory you might not care to discuss with me, the three people I have had any sort of meaningful relationship with have all shown me and taught me so much and at least with you and Alessandro, I know I'm a better lover for the effort. I should thank you.

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-19 08:13 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
We were only in Washington for a few months while he was on an assignment. It was beautiful, rainy and very green. Reminded me of Ireland in many ways. And no, the rain didn't stop the photography.

No need to apologize. I'd far rather you find it funny than shocking. Not that orgies crop up frequently in my history.

I would say the thanks should be mutual.

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-19 08:20 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sand-andwater.livejournal.com
Never does. Shutterbugs are demanding that way.

I didn't assume that they did, Ro. And it's just that I know you and I know how you get when it comes to tactile cravings, it simply wouldn't shock me. Did you expect it to?

...I miss you.

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-20 07:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
No ... no I didn't expect it to. I've been wrong before though.

I miss you too.

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-20 07:19 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sand-andwater.livejournal.com
Are you speaking in general terms or with regards to me personally?

There are moments where I regret leaving.
Edited Date: 2009-02-20 07:19 am (UTC)

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-20 09:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
In general. I've had people in my life whom I thought were open-minded prove themselves to be otherwise.

You ... already know me too well for that, I think.

Re: [locked to Rory]

Date: 2009-02-20 09:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sand-andwater.livejournal.com
I do know you. I don't want that to change.

Date: 2009-02-18 07:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
Cocks, fingers, tongues, strap-ons, vibrators, plugs ... aaaaand an occasional common (and carefully cleaned and lubed) household object.

Which house-hold object, nosy people want to know...

Costumes? You know Jean-Paul is going to suggest that porn contest he is obsessed with. More nosy people want to know what KIND of costumes.

And holy crap, Rory...just remember: NO ORGIES WITH THE GROUPIES.

Date: 2009-02-19 06:34 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
Which house-hold object, nosy people want to know...

Hem. A round hairbrush handle for one.

Things I have dressed up in for the express purpose of taking on a persona for sex: a tailored three-piece suit. Breeches and a poet's shirt. Leather. A WWII-era RAF uniform. And a priest's outfit, complete with cassock and clerical collar.

No, the above list is not comprehensive.

Groupies don't appeal to me overmuch, a chara, so no worries there.

Date: 2009-02-19 06:37 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
You...no. Noooooooo. Not a priest. No.

I didn't read that. This is mean not reading that. LALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALA

WHY?!?!

A priest?

Whhhhhhhhhhhhhy?

Sascha, why he do this thing?

Date: 2009-02-19 06:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
All right, to be precise, the priest's garb was a Halloween costume. So the original purpose for putting it on wasn't sexual.

I was fully expecting to have sex at the end of the evening though.

I'm sorry, Peter. Did I take your brain to the bad place?

Date: 2009-02-19 06:49 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
MY FATHER IS A PRIEST AND YOU KNOW THAT!








This is the only reason you told me about it, isn't it?

Date: 2009-02-19 06:59 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
.................. maybe?





I am a naughty lapsed Catholic.

Date: 2009-02-19 07:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
I am never sharing my cookies with you again.


And you are so going to hell. In a hand basket. And you do not get an aisle seat.

Date: 2009-02-19 07:35 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
Would it help erase the mental images if I wore the RAF uniform sometime? I think I still have it around here somewhere ...

Date: 2009-02-19 07:39 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
Depends.









Are we going to have sex, Officer?

Date: 2009-02-19 08:15 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com
[locked]


......



Flight Sergeant, actually.






Corporal.
Edited Date: 2009-02-19 08:16 am (UTC)

Date: 2009-02-19 08:21 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
[locked]

I stand corrected, sir.

Date: 2009-02-19 08:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keyboard-sass.livejournal.com
Sorry, babe, but you did ask. And I promise you, I'm not giggling at your reaction.


Much.


In fact I'm LMAO-ing, not giggling.

Date: 2009-02-19 08:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
See if I ever let you spend the night again.

Date: 2009-02-20 06:22 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keyboard-sass.livejournal.com
The people at your apartment building won't keep me out, remember?

But we can discuss my future access to your apartment and other things of yours after you tell me this thing you think I might want to know.

Date: 2009-02-20 06:30 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
I met a homicide detective a couple weeks ago.

Date: 2009-02-20 06:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keyboard-sass.livejournal.com
A homicide detective.

M'kay, honey, I am glad you're getting out and meeting people ... but is there some particular reason you thought this would be relevant to my interests?

Date: 2009-02-20 06:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
No, I met a homicide detective.

Date: 2009-02-20 05:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keyboard-sass.livejournal.com
You met a ... oh. Ohhhhhhhh. Peter, honestly, if you want to gloat over the hot guy you hit, just come out and say so, cutie! What's he like?

Date: 2009-02-20 09:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keyboard-sass.livejournal.com
Mmmmmmhmmmmm. Good at what exactly? Nudge nudge wink wink ...

Date: 2009-02-20 11:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keyboard-sass.livejournal.com
Riiiiiight. Things. With stuff. In ... places.

Date: 2009-02-20 11:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keyboard-sass.livejournal.com
So I get no details whatsoever?

Meanie.

Date: 2009-02-20 11:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] half-whole-pw.livejournal.com
I'll give you details but later. Stop potentially mucking something else up for me, Sasch.

Date: 2009-02-20 11:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keyboard-sass.livejournal.com
Sorry, hon. Shushing now.

Date: 2009-02-21 02:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fey-fire.livejournal.com

......................


*LOCKS ENTRY SECURELY AGAINST CHUCKS*



OOC: You and your bendytiemnao! *tickles*

Date: 2009-02-21 08:14 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] verbal-vomit-1.livejournal.com
Chuck just wanted to say hi...

or so she says.

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